Saturday, April 13, 2013

Children of Divorce

I get it. Divorce is messy, sad, confusing. For everyone, but I imagine especially for children who have no choice in the matter.

I wonder though, do all children of divorce really just want their family together? Do any of those children turn into adults & find that they are actually better off coming from a divorce than a home with unhappily married parents? Do any children whose parents stayed in a bad marriage "for the kids" turn into adults & look back and wish someone would have just been brave enough to leave?

I obviously have selfish reasons for asking. My parents are still married; my grandparents are still married. I come from a family where "marriage is hard but you make it work" but I also come from a family where BOTH spouses are working for it. So I'm fortunate in that I don't know how a child of divorce may feel. But I know this divorce has me questioning every single aspect of my life. Especially when it comes to my young daughter & what this will mean for her.

So I'm asking you. Children of divorced parents, or parents who should have divorced, where do I go from here? What do you wish your mom (or dad) would have known? When did you get over the fantasy? Or did you? Help me.

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1 comment:

  1. I'm interested in the responses you get to this! I always wonder if DG's son is going to grow up wishing his mom and dad never got divorced. I know he is better off and I know he is going to have a great life living with us, but it makes me sad when he has to go to his mom's house every other weekend and I worry that someday he is going to say that he wishes he had a big happy family..


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